mysql reverse dns lagging localhost

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I've just installed the latest windows binaries for mysql as well as apache/php which is working but any time i try and access a page that has mysql queries it loads very slow lag is about 3 seconds ore more. Every where that i've read seems to say this is mysql trying to run a reverse dns and dns issue. I read to fix this that mysqld should start with -skip-name-resolve i've put that in my.ini and restarted the server but that still hasn't fixed my server problem, my computer's connected to my linksys and gets a private IP through dhcp 192.168.15.101. I've tried to disable networking with mysql so that it didn't use tcp/ip and just ran into permission problems. I've disabled strict mode and change mysql mode to 4 trying to use it as an earlier version but still nothing. I've played with just about every setting possible as well as adding wild cards to my user hosts/IP's in the mysql table. I'd really appreciate any help with this i spent hours yesterday trying to get it to work as fast as it should being on localhost, thanks in advance.