Connecting to a remote mysql server

[alexis101]

Hello everyone,
My problem is:
I have a remote mysql server and i cant connect to it . I granted all privilege to root from my ip address (i have a static one) and still when i try to conect to my server i still have the message
ERROR 2003 (HY000): Can't connect to MySQL server on (XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX)

Here is what i did :
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mysql>GRANT ALL PRIVILEGES ON *.* TO root@XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX IDENTIFIED BY "**********";
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and on my local machine
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localhost ~ # mysql --host=XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX --pass
Enter password:
ERROR 2003 (HY000): Can't connect to MySQL server on 'XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX' (111)
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Anyone can point me where i did my error?
Thank you!

[wickning1]

Is it firewalled?

[alexis101]

no

[wickning1]

There's nothing wrong from a MySQL standpoint, it has to be some kind of networking error. My best guess is that the server is not listening to the default port (3306 I believe), or there is a firewall somewhere in between.

[alexis101]

well i did a ngrep on the port 3306 and here is what i got :
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ngrep -W byline 3306
interface: eth0 (XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX/XXX.XXX.XXX.XXX)
match: 3306
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exit
98549 received, 0 dropped
localhost ~ #
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Anyway i dont understand my server is not behind any firewall or any router ...